Thrive PACE & VRF
Thrive’s Vital Relational Functions
Attune
Match the child’s energy using your body, face and voice.
“Oh wow! I can see your face is red and your fists are clenched.”
Validate
let the child know it’s OK to have the feeling.
I’m wondering if/ imagining that/ noticing that you might be feeling sad/ cross/ frightened/ excited. If that had happened to me, I would feel that way too.”
Contain
be alongside as a helpful, supportive adult.
“I can see this is tricky for you and I will keep you safe.” Break things down into manageable chunks, e.g., “First, we will…”
Regulate
Sooth or stimulate the child back to social engagement
“Let’s breathe together until you feel calmer.”
All adults working with the Thrive approach use PACE
P - Playfulness
Adults should be open / available /flexible/engaged/ have a sense of fun/ imaginative and connected
A - Acceptance
Acknowledging the child and their emotional state as being true and valid, and representing this back to them.
C - Curiosity
Showing authentic interest in finding out about the child and their experience.
E - Empathy
Being alongside the child without negative judgement.
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