Thrive PACE & VRF

Thrive’s Vital Relational Functions

Attune

Match the child’s energy using your body, face and voice.

“Oh wow! I can see your face is red and your fists are clenched.”

Validate

let the child know it’s OK to have the feeling.

I’m wondering if/ imagining that/ noticing that you might be feeling sad/ cross/ frightened/ excited. If that had happened to me, I would feel that way too.”

Contain

be alongside as a helpful, supportive adult.

“I can see this is tricky for you and I will keep you safe.” Break things down into manageable chunks, e.g., “First, we will…”

Regulate

Sooth or stimulate the child back to social engagement

“Let’s breathe together until you feel calmer.”

All adults working with the Thrive approach use PACE

P - Playfulness

Adults should be open / available /flexible/engaged/ have a sense of fun/ imaginative and connected

A - Acceptance

Acknowledging the child and their emotional state as being true and valid, and representing this back to them.

C - Curiosity

Showing authentic interest in finding out about the child and their experience.

E - Empathy

Being alongside the child without negative judgement.

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